As Salam Alykum ^_^
when you try to change , you fall in between in some stuff , sometimes , you are about to lose hope , sometimes ..you just fall down ..like you always wake up from fajr , suddenly you can’t wake up or something ..
i believe these moments are critical , and dangerous ..how you act at these moments , may make you lose every thing ! ..or go higher faster ! :)
just think about anything , you used to fall in , and you lost it because of this ..and apply what i am saying on it ! :)
1st don’t be hard on yourself.
if someone always wake up late , and then he woke up early once , do he say i am the morning guy ?! :D ..naah ! :D why he believe he wake up late ! ..same to here , when you are working on doing something , and you fall down once or twice ..don’t treat yourself as a loser ! ..ignore it ..go forward ! just say , nah i should not do this again ! tawbaah for sure , repent ..
but don’t say : that’s me ! ..i will always fall ..not true :) ! give yourself other chance .
2nd Believe in who you want to be :) !
i got friends tell me , i want to be ..this and this , but i am not this kind of person..actually treat yourself as a one and you will be ! ..
when i was young , i was never used to having breakfast , just at school may be at 10 or 11 ..then as i wake up very early , and i read about how breakfast is useful , i tried to love it ! to do it ..i had problems that i used to never be hungry by a way that can let me eat in the morning :D ..i started reading Quotes about breakfast , until i believed that ” i can’t start my day without breakFast” :) ..now I don’t start my day without breakfast ! XD
3rd ..Be Firm ! :D
umm be firm or don’t be hard on yourself ..confusing right ? :D nop ! like when i tell you that Allah is the most forgiver ..and i tell you that Allah’s punishment is the hardest ! :) ..
when you are about to do this wrong thing , you must be firm without yourself , close all doors :) ..know that Allah’s punishment is the hardest..that you may lose everything.. ! :)
but when you already did it , you must repent and know that Allah is most forgiver ..and that you can go back normally :) !
4th ..know Yourself =D
Sometimes people trying to act like other successful people do , and forget that everyone got his own way of sucess , yes there is general rules for all , but details are not needed =D so know your goals right , do it right , read about it right ..before blaming yourself for not winning :)
5th be Surrounded by good people =D
this is one of the most needed ways =D , when you fall down ..you got have people who tell you that you can do it :) , people who actually notify you when you fall a little =D ..help you :)
6th don’t tell people about your mistakes :)
Okay , this point need balance , when you have a big mistake that never end , sure you need to share with people of knowledge or who care about you to help :) ..but if it is something for once , twice ..etc :)
let it be between you and Allah :) ..seriously ! :D
7th ..Conscience
don’t kill your conscience ..some people get a call in their brain or heart , i don’t know , telling them oh what you are doing now is wrong ..they ignore it ! ..they kill it ! ..WHY ! ..don’t do this ! ..i got no problem in doing the mistake million of times ..but once i feel it is a mistake i must leave it at the moment ! ..and really Shitan come at this point , i got a mistake i always redo ..but every time i do it , my conscience wake me up while doing ..do you know what shitan tell me : you will come back to anyways , you need it ! ..see ..:) i reply , don’t it hours every while and then is better than this became my life ! ..to die while i forgot it is wrong..is better than die while my heart accept it ! ..
8th Train your determination and patience ! :)
i loved the prophet said to teenagers at my age : if you can’t marry , FAST !
fast ? ..why ..fasting make your patience stronger ..and more determination , as you say i won’t drink or eat until 7 pm , and you really do it ! ..and it make your conscience awake ! ..
at the beginning of my 16 years old .( yeah at the beginning :D ) , i used to fast a lot really al hamdu LAllah , why i was addicted to fasting by then , that it helped me change my life really ..it was the most powerful tool i used by then , as i used to be very Thirsty and who knows me in person , know i am always thirsty lol , and i am hungry and i am awake from 4 am ..or 5 am ..so whenever a sin that i was used to , pass by in front of me ..i feel oh my ..i will waste all of this effort i could do for this sin ?! lol..i used to feel that if i did anything wrong , all my fasting my be not worth it and not accepted !
so yes Fasting changed me a lot ( i don’t fast now :/ ..that was a good reminder to myself )
9th Pray!
someone educated me this , whenever you got a problem , don’t tell people :) ..Tell Allah subhanu wa Ta’ala ! :) His help come by a magical way ! ..i remember something used to annoy me a lot ..and i don’t know what to do ..and for some months in my month at age of 16 , 17 ..i used to have a problem , that i believed something is wrong , but everyone around is doing it ! ..so i couldn’t really ask them for help , as when you tell them help me , they tell you , no it is not wrong ! ..so i used to get crazy ..at this point , i used to tell Allah ..okay i don’t know what’s right ..and i need your help..TELL ALLAH ! he understands , he know how to change everything ..and when you really want it ..this is that change you need in yourself , so Allah change you :)
10th Death !
oh yeah you will die now ..so wake up !
11th Help People to pass their own struggles
12th always recharge :D ..Mustafa Hosny said this before and it changed me ..don’t watch/read religious , knowledge ..about what you need only ..like if you don’t have a boyfriend , and you believe having a boyfriend is wrong..then you stuff watching stuff about how destructive is this..because simply , you may fall suddenly ! always be surrounded by those words of knowledge all the time to wake you up :)
have a t least a weekly hour for religious book or tv show ..lecture :D
reading specially is amazing ..reading wakes your brain ..like you may watch something , but not really in it ..but reading changes you really physically and emotionally and everything ..READ READ READ !
13.Quran =D
it is funny as we are getting into Ramadan soon in Shaa Allah , how people in Ramadan read a lot of Quran ! ..and then ..one of then stops at 29 ..and it is last day in Ramadan and she couldn’t read the part 30 ..and she feel bad for that ..then she never try to read the 30th after Ramadan ! ..then the Ramadan after it , Al hamdu LAllah , she could finish Quran :D ..what about the rest of the Year ? :) !
if i said books is useful , islamic tv shows are useful , lecture are useful ..all of these are FAKE without Reading Quran :) !
Really ! Quran is a must , food of thought and the heart :)
i do something that may help ..i don’t read by myself , i got FULL QURAN read by Saad Al Ghamdi and Maher Al-Muraquily , and i listen and read with them ..
14. Study it !
i said at the beginning , ignore your falling down ..naah not always , sometimes you need a paper and pen and start judging yourself , and planning about how you will really do it ! ..
15.Be Thankful
some people forget that its all because Allah helped them :) never forget , don’t think it is your own success ever :)
=D i got no more points , may be there is more , but i can’t remember now =D ..i am sorry for not organizing the point according to priority , as Quran for Example should be number 1 or something =D
hope you like it , hope it is useful ! enjoy your success :) Al hamdu LAllah !
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